Saturday, January 05, 2008
heyz..
first post of the year! lolz.. well the year so far has been good la.. actually it started of really crappy.. cos i was sick.. fever..flu..cough.. sick man.. i hate it.. and those of u who know me know that i rarely get sick.. so i dun like the feeling.. so restricting. i desire and like freedom..lolz.. so to be restrained is idiotic.. but of cos i know how to control myself.. later ppl get the idea dat i jus do wad i like..lolz.. anyway..the good things in the year so far.. FAR OUTWEIGH the bad things.. so its alrite la.. things are going just as good as i would like.. i mean it could be bttr la.. but well.. things dont always go the way we want it.. so to be this good.. is fabulous already.. im able to finally do the things i like...freedom rocks...have to make up for all the lost mentoring time..lolz... anyway i dont really have much to say... i think A lvl results coming out mid FEB.. so exiciting..lolz..oh well.. hope i do well.. lolz.. pray i do well... pray really really hard that i do well.. lolz..ok dats all... ill put in my new theory.. its about shallow ppl.. i know a few.. do you? lol
Theory Of ‘Shallowness’
Being shallow has the same meaning as lacking depth. Different people will lack depth in different areas. However through experience it is apparent that those who lack depth in certain key areas often lack depth in almost everything else. Three of these key areas are attitude, character and relationships. Being shallow in these areas has the effect of tainting the other areas of our lives as well. This is due to the fact that they are really important in moulding the other areas of our lives.
Someone who has a shallow attitude has an attitude that focuses on things that are temporary rather than those things that are lasting. They like to do things the easy way and get the quick fix. This often causes their actions to become shallow. For example, a student with a shallow attitude would only want to get his studies over and done with so that he can get out of school. There is no consideration for the future and for the things that will impact his long-term life. Therefore this attitude of his will translate into actions that lack depth; Last minute studying, copying homework and not paying attention during lessons. While he might still be able to pass his exams, he would not be performing to his full capability. Attitude affects aptitude. A person who has depth in attitude would put in all his effort in his studies even if he doesn’t like it. This is because he realises that how well he does will affect his future and chances are, the better he does the brighter his future. Those who are shallow live for the day, while those with depth would live with long-term goals in mind. As you can see, having a shallow attitude affect your actions and that in turn impacts your entire life negatively.
Having a shallow character is different from having a shallow attitude, but they normally go hand in hand. While shallow attitude affects your actions, shallow character affects your judgement and decisions, and in worst-case scenarios, those with shallow character will justify their poor decisions. To put it in a crude manner, people with shallow character have their morals, perspectives and opinions screwed up already. At some point in their life they have been influenced in a way that sets them on the ‘screwed up’ path. Having shallow character completely clouds your judgement. People still know right from wrong, but they deliberately choose to do what is wrong. For example this guy knows that smoking will harm his health and the health of those around him. He knows that the money he spends on smoking could be used for other more important things. He realises that smoking is equivalent to paying to shorten your life. However because his character is shallow, he isn’t able to push aside the bad influence and make a decision for himself based on his ethics. As this goes on, ethics will become something that is non-existent in his life. He still knows what is right and wrong, but he deliberately chooses to do wrong and tries to manipulate his mind into thinking that its nothing much. His judgement is totally warped and he makes all the wrong decisions. Once again this is something that has the capability to infect his entire life. This is a moderate example, it can happen in a manner that seems really small scale or it could be based on emotions like hating others, which is wrong.
Having shallow relationships is perhaps what we would be able to identify with most as it probably affects all of us. In the context of friends, it is friendship that lacks depth, friendship that has no purpose. So how exactly do you determine whether your relationship with certain people is shallow? Firstly think about how much the relationship means to you. If those people were to go overseas for a few years how would u feel? If you could not care less, it is a shallow relationship and one with no purpose. Secondly if the relationship is one that you can just discard without fear of losing anything, it is shallow. The problem with shallow relationships is, it is normally only known to one side. A and B could be friends and for B their relationship might not be shallow, but for A it could be. The thing is, A is not going to go up to B and tell him that he feels that their relationship is shallow. So most of the time it could only be known to one side. Well while this is largely inevitable due to the fact that relationships are complicated and always not confined to just two people, both sides should try and avoid the consequences of such relationships. One of the main consequences is talking behind each other’s back. Since A’s relationship with B is shallow, there is no importance to the friendship and thus bitching about B comes easily. A is not worried about losing B as a friend because their friendship mean little to A. the worst case scenario would be when A bitches about B and then acts all nice and happy in front of B as though everything is just fine. That is just purely hypocritical and reveals the ‘shallowness’ of the person as a whole. While having a purpose in friendship with all our friends might be hard to achieve, we must still aim to avoid the consequences of relationships without purpose. Failing to do so would jus cause us to become shallow people.
In general, the thing that you would notice about shallow people is that they are limited. They are limited in what they can offer you as a friend. If their attitude and character is shallow they will jus be a bad influence to you. If what they say seems right to you then maybe you should check our own morals and ethics. While it is not good to just label people as shallow and avoid them for the rest of our lives, we should not get influenced by them. We should all live by our own moral compass, which should be directed by God. This is just some points for you to ponder about. If you consciously think about it as you interact with your friends or think about past conversations and all, you will realise this to be true and applicable.
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