Deebs' Blog;

Sunday, July 08, 2007

hey..

man im like sick la..lolz..its quite a rare occurance.. got this wierd cough and irritation in my throat..haiz.. but its getting bttr..should be gone in a few days i pray..lol.. well its been a tiring day... soccer was good though.. scored 3 against the stringrays.. who ended up stinging themselves..whahaha..but they were good la.. should play again some time..hahas..

anyway..thought ill blog more of my thoughts today... i know ive said in the past dat sometimes why im disappointed with the outcome of certain things..or relationships is due to the fact that my expectations are too high.. well while that might be true.. it might not always be the case.. u see.. whether we like it or not.. we have expectations of everyone we know personally... whether it is ur family member who u see everyday..or ur frens.. or sumone u met two days ago and have been toking to..of cos the more u know ppl the more expectations u have of them.. they can be as simple as expecting a reply when u send a sms...or more complicated like erm ur parents expecting their children to provide for them when they are old kinda thing..sorry for the lame example.. but yea.. if u think through it consciously during ur day with the ppl u meet u will realise it.. and the reaosn why we have greater expectations of those we know more is becos u know them well enough to expect them to behave in a certain way or expect them to reciprocate things dat u do for them.. like if u are nice to them..den u expect them to be nice to you as well.. but of cos u would notice that this is not the case.. u can pour out so much into ppls lives...sacrifice alot of ur time..and effort..jus to be there for them..to tok to them and to listen to them...but u dont always get that back in return.. ive come to accept that cos well..its just how things are..the thing is.. normally when u exceed ppls expectations of you.. its jus registers in them for a while..and then..its like no big deal.. cos all they wanted was for u to meet the expectation.. so they dun see it as something significant as u would want them to see.. but when u dont meet ppls expectations of you..then they will not have very positive feelings towards you.. they will be angry...disappointed and regretful.. so yea.. probably the bottomline is the fact that if two ppl do not have similar levels of expectations of each other.. negative feelings are bound to rise.. as one would exceed expectations..while the other would fall short.. of cos this is by no means the fault of the person who falls short..cos its your expectations of them.. so yea..think about this.. it might explain why sumtimes u feel disappointed at ppl not doing wad u wan them to do..or not behaving in a manner that u expect of them..

woo dat was long..hahas..its jus to get things of my chest..hahas..rite..hope u understand..if not u can ask me..hahas.. dats all..

[Deebs]

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